For Colored Facebookers

This blog was inspired by Steven 'Stephon' Douglas Maxwell (a Facebook friend of mine that will be referred to as "host" from henceforth). After seeing the movie For Colored Girls he made this post on his wall:
  
went to see FOR COLORED GIRLS TONIGHT...that movie was sum else..is it me or does that movie just overdue life and toooo many different situations...? (2LIKES)


which somehow sparked a debate (which will be posted at the end of this blog) about the purpose of the movie that I (honestly) didn't care about. I saw it by default (not by choice) and had pretty much figured out everything that was going to happen next far in advance. I did find it interesting though and it was a nice movie. But I jumped in this conversation simply because I had already discussed these same topics with my friend about this movie. It was just so much stuff in this movie that I ( speaking for myself only) could not see happening exactly like that just because... 
But no matter how many times people say that there is no wrong answer; this is just your opinion, somehow someone is always wrong and today that person was me, the poor little accused rapist defense attorney that obviously and blatantly blamed the victim (as if that was the only thing I spoke about in the movie...and it wasn't even the thing the "stuck with me" throughout the movie). 

OAN: You can usually tell when something hits close to home for someone. They usually stand out more. 

But here is the actual debate with typos and all because I didn't feel like correcting errors. 

Person 1: I loved the movie but I agree....all his movies kinda over do it sometimes. Thought I was the only one

Host: ol mane i was sittn dur lik ....WHAT?...r u serious? ...lets b real!!...someone slap WHOOPIE!!...WHY AINT NOBODY TRY TO CATCH DEM BABYZ!!!

Supermodel Dominique: Better question: why did Phylicia Rashaad run downstairs and outside to scream for help, but she had a key to walk in on Thandie Newton to tell her to stop sleeping with so many men? (1 LIKE)

Person 2: That might not be your reality but it's someone else's. People actually go through things like that. (2 LIKES)

Supermodel Dominique: Or why Anika Noni Rose stood there long enough for dude to get undress and ask what he was doing when she was right by the kitchen and could have had a knife ready for jabbing? (2 LIKES)

Person 3: I thought the same thing...it's like he wanted you to feet depressed

Supermodel Dominique:  That whole scene was crazy to me, but it was the only thing that stuck with me throughout the movie when I was focused enough to pay attn. (referencing the the falling children scene which I did not state in original thread)

Person 2: He wanted you to feel depressed because that what the movie was almost about. How to overcome trials and tribulations as a Black hence "Colored" woman.

Host:NIQUE i was thinkin all dat!! den it only lasted 2mins!! smh...dey aint have to show us how long it lasted by keep shown us da dang clock...
n (PERSON 2)yeah it happens but why do we need to express that to people with a movie.?
the theme of the... movie even HAD to be stated at the end just for clarification which means that most people was either LOST throughout the movie tryna understand its meaning or just was confused by all the poetry in the movie

Supermodel Dominique: They showed the clock because it was 2 minutes for him, but a lifetime for her. But that was just unrealistic to me because all that screaming without trying to fight isn't survivor's mode. Though I am not blaming the victim, I don't understand why she was oblivious to the fact that he wanted to have sex with her. The way he acted on the date should have said something to her, but it didn't and she didn't believe Thandie when she told her. I don't think she should have expected the rape, but everything about him said sex to me.

Person 2: I understand what your saying. Only someone who has some what of a taste of comprehending hidden messages in words could understand the poetry and I confused a lot of people. Men especially. Movies help spread messages and also have a posit...ive effect on people and help them through hard times.

I think he wanted to let black females know its not just them. Its other females that go through this too.

Supermodel Dominique: I think the movie was about women in general. The only reason the title fit was because of the cast. That could happen to any one, any race. That was a struggle of people. Not colored people. (1 LIKE)

Person 2: How was she oblivious. She had one date with him he was totally fine and he left, how did he acted again. It wasn't as if he was sex crazed. She out of the kinds of her heart let him inside and he raped her. Some people respond differently. It was clear that was bigger and stronger. He raped her from the back and was holding her hands. What do you expect her to do. Thandie simply said he wants to fuck you not rape you. He sent her flowers, I guess that screams I want to fuck you. And your right woman of all color go through that but this particular movie was for black females and how black males treat them.

Supermodel Dominique: I didn't want her to act anyway. Once the rape began, there was nothing she could do. I didn't speak on the flowers so you have to speak with Thandie about that aspect. I never said she was oblivious to the rape her. There was NO WAY she could have known he would rape her. Her character was portrayed as if she had no idea that he was sexually interested in her. She shrugged it off when he asked to come in and again when Thandie mention it to her (which is what a normal woman would do if another woman told her something like that and she didn't know this woman). IDK what you mean about how he acted again? The second he was a rapist. That's it on that.

Person 2: What woman takes precaution when she knows a man is sexually interested in her. You said she was oblivious. So if she knew that he wanted to fuck then maybe it would of ended differently? hmmp. I guess...

Supermodel Dominique: If that's you perceive it then that's fine with me. Hmmp. I know (that it's fine with me)  (1 LIKE)

FTR: I did not "like" any of my own posts (nor anyone else's for that matter), but I respect all comments shared. It is what it is.

So yeah, apparently this whole thing was my fault because I was speaking on the kids being dropped without referencing that and everyone else assumed I was speaking on the rape and went from there. Then next thing I know, I'm caught badgering the witness. LOL. Who knows? Either way, this was fun. So I decided to share and if I offended anyone in the process... un-offend yourselves. I'm out!!!

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Several hours later...

     As I signed into Facebook, I had new notifications because the thread had grown  and another person (who also read the play/book/whatever that it was based on) gave their opinion which led to person 2 needing to tell them why they were also wrong on their perspective of the movie and how they needed to understand that this movie was not about women in general, but just us regular old coloreds just because of the title and the poetry behind the movie and how it was written. So the new person bowed out and said they didn't want to be lectured about the movie and person 2 was apparently unaware that they were lecturing.  

I love how this one question turned into a round table showdown and got all in depth of the history of the creation. I didn't read the play and I don't want to my opinion is solely based on how I felt at that time and I feel like most other people who commented on this felt the same way. they weren't looking into the past nor future. They were speaking about current feelings.

DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL MY FIANCE

THE LETTER:

GOOD MORNING STEVE,SHIRLEY,AND TOMMY
Im a 30 year old woman in need of desperate help with a situation that i put myself in and now want to end it. It all started when i was on fb and found and ex boyfriend on there that i left to be with the man im with now and were engaged to be married in march 2011. My problem is that we have been talking back and forth a lot when my fiance leaves to go to work so i get on line to talk then when he asks me to call then i call his home where he lives with his girlfriend. I know that im being very disrespectful on both ends cause we joke well i joke about getting back together with him but he doesnt take none of this as a joke he is taking me very serious but i dont mean any of it. But i told him that im not leaving my fiance for him or anyone but his not taking that well at all cause he claim that he been waiting on the chance to get to talk to me again so he could get me back but im not going back so how do i tell my husband about this situation that ive put myself in!!!!!!!!!!!.p
please help MS.TORN.

MY RESPONSE:

Before you talk to anyone, you need to talk to yourself and God because you are obviously confused about what you really want anyway. If you were satisfied with your ex, you wouldn't have left him to be with your fiance' and if you were satisfied with your fiance', you wouldn't be scouring Facebook looking for your ex. The "jokes" you are making are no jokes at all otherwise you wouldn't be "torn". I honestly believe that you want to be with your ex, but you wanted to be married so you went with whoever asked. After all, you never mentioned loving your fiance' anyway. What you honestly need to do is become satisfied with yourself before moving forward with either of these men.

Source: Strawberry Letter 23

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