Looking for a Date

This is just an ad I saw earlier today and decided to share it with my beautiful followers.

Business Owner, (African American gentleman, 43) seeks attractive Asian or Caucasian female assistant/companion for important conference being held in Buckhead this November. Serious inquiries only
    Compensation: $200-$300

Too bad we African-American women don't look good enough to make this much for a date, huh?

What's Your Ethnicity?

I read this on a website today, so I decided to share this bit of information to see what you thought about it. I'd gotten to the portion of where it asks for your ethnicity on an application. You just needed select an option since they already had pre-filled choices.

Caucasian
Hispanic/Latino
Asian
Black
Other (Please Explain)

The first thing that came to mind for me was that someone didn't know what to call "black" people. Everyone else had literal names and then you just get to..."black".

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For Colored Facebookers

This blog was inspired by Steven 'Stephon' Douglas Maxwell (a Facebook friend of mine that will be referred to as "host" from henceforth). After seeing the movie For Colored Girls he made this post on his wall:
  
went to see FOR COLORED GIRLS TONIGHT...that movie was sum else..is it me or does that movie just overdue life and toooo many different situations...? (2LIKES)


which somehow sparked a debate (which will be posted at the end of this blog) about the purpose of the movie that I (honestly) didn't care about. I saw it by default (not by choice) and had pretty much figured out everything that was going to happen next far in advance. I did find it interesting though and it was a nice movie. But I jumped in this conversation simply because I had already discussed these same topics with my friend about this movie. It was just so much stuff in this movie that I ( speaking for myself only) could not see happening exactly like that just because... 
But no matter how many times people say that there is no wrong answer; this is just your opinion, somehow someone is always wrong and today that person was me, the poor little accused rapist defense attorney that obviously and blatantly blamed the victim (as if that was the only thing I spoke about in the movie...and it wasn't even the thing the "stuck with me" throughout the movie). 

OAN: You can usually tell when something hits close to home for someone. They usually stand out more. 

But here is the actual debate with typos and all because I didn't feel like correcting errors. 

Person 1: I loved the movie but I agree....all his movies kinda over do it sometimes. Thought I was the only one

Host: ol mane i was sittn dur lik ....WHAT?...r u serious? ...lets b real!!...someone slap WHOOPIE!!...WHY AINT NOBODY TRY TO CATCH DEM BABYZ!!!

Supermodel Dominique: Better question: why did Phylicia Rashaad run downstairs and outside to scream for help, but she had a key to walk in on Thandie Newton to tell her to stop sleeping with so many men? (1 LIKE)

Person 2: That might not be your reality but it's someone else's. People actually go through things like that. (2 LIKES)

Supermodel Dominique: Or why Anika Noni Rose stood there long enough for dude to get undress and ask what he was doing when she was right by the kitchen and could have had a knife ready for jabbing? (2 LIKES)

Person 3: I thought the same thing...it's like he wanted you to feet depressed

Supermodel Dominique:  That whole scene was crazy to me, but it was the only thing that stuck with me throughout the movie when I was focused enough to pay attn. (referencing the the falling children scene which I did not state in original thread)

Person 2: He wanted you to feel depressed because that what the movie was almost about. How to overcome trials and tribulations as a Black hence "Colored" woman.

Host:NIQUE i was thinkin all dat!! den it only lasted 2mins!! smh...dey aint have to show us how long it lasted by keep shown us da dang clock...
n (PERSON 2)yeah it happens but why do we need to express that to people with a movie.?
the theme of the... movie even HAD to be stated at the end just for clarification which means that most people was either LOST throughout the movie tryna understand its meaning or just was confused by all the poetry in the movie

Supermodel Dominique: They showed the clock because it was 2 minutes for him, but a lifetime for her. But that was just unrealistic to me because all that screaming without trying to fight isn't survivor's mode. Though I am not blaming the victim, I don't understand why she was oblivious to the fact that he wanted to have sex with her. The way he acted on the date should have said something to her, but it didn't and she didn't believe Thandie when she told her. I don't think she should have expected the rape, but everything about him said sex to me.

Person 2: I understand what your saying. Only someone who has some what of a taste of comprehending hidden messages in words could understand the poetry and I confused a lot of people. Men especially. Movies help spread messages and also have a posit...ive effect on people and help them through hard times.

I think he wanted to let black females know its not just them. Its other females that go through this too.

Supermodel Dominique: I think the movie was about women in general. The only reason the title fit was because of the cast. That could happen to any one, any race. That was a struggle of people. Not colored people. (1 LIKE)

Person 2: How was she oblivious. She had one date with him he was totally fine and he left, how did he acted again. It wasn't as if he was sex crazed. She out of the kinds of her heart let him inside and he raped her. Some people respond differently. It was clear that was bigger and stronger. He raped her from the back and was holding her hands. What do you expect her to do. Thandie simply said he wants to fuck you not rape you. He sent her flowers, I guess that screams I want to fuck you. And your right woman of all color go through that but this particular movie was for black females and how black males treat them.

Supermodel Dominique: I didn't want her to act anyway. Once the rape began, there was nothing she could do. I didn't speak on the flowers so you have to speak with Thandie about that aspect. I never said she was oblivious to the rape her. There was NO WAY she could have known he would rape her. Her character was portrayed as if she had no idea that he was sexually interested in her. She shrugged it off when he asked to come in and again when Thandie mention it to her (which is what a normal woman would do if another woman told her something like that and she didn't know this woman). IDK what you mean about how he acted again? The second he was a rapist. That's it on that.

Person 2: What woman takes precaution when she knows a man is sexually interested in her. You said she was oblivious. So if she knew that he wanted to fuck then maybe it would of ended differently? hmmp. I guess...

Supermodel Dominique: If that's you perceive it then that's fine with me. Hmmp. I know (that it's fine with me)  (1 LIKE)

FTR: I did not "like" any of my own posts (nor anyone else's for that matter), but I respect all comments shared. It is what it is.

So yeah, apparently this whole thing was my fault because I was speaking on the kids being dropped without referencing that and everyone else assumed I was speaking on the rape and went from there. Then next thing I know, I'm caught badgering the witness. LOL. Who knows? Either way, this was fun. So I decided to share and if I offended anyone in the process... un-offend yourselves. I'm out!!!

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Several hours later...

     As I signed into Facebook, I had new notifications because the thread had grown  and another person (who also read the play/book/whatever that it was based on) gave their opinion which led to person 2 needing to tell them why they were also wrong on their perspective of the movie and how they needed to understand that this movie was not about women in general, but just us regular old coloreds just because of the title and the poetry behind the movie and how it was written. So the new person bowed out and said they didn't want to be lectured about the movie and person 2 was apparently unaware that they were lecturing.  

I love how this one question turned into a round table showdown and got all in depth of the history of the creation. I didn't read the play and I don't want to my opinion is solely based on how I felt at that time and I feel like most other people who commented on this felt the same way. they weren't looking into the past nor future. They were speaking about current feelings.

DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL MY FIANCE

THE LETTER:

GOOD MORNING STEVE,SHIRLEY,AND TOMMY
Im a 30 year old woman in need of desperate help with a situation that i put myself in and now want to end it. It all started when i was on fb and found and ex boyfriend on there that i left to be with the man im with now and were engaged to be married in march 2011. My problem is that we have been talking back and forth a lot when my fiance leaves to go to work so i get on line to talk then when he asks me to call then i call his home where he lives with his girlfriend. I know that im being very disrespectful on both ends cause we joke well i joke about getting back together with him but he doesnt take none of this as a joke he is taking me very serious but i dont mean any of it. But i told him that im not leaving my fiance for him or anyone but his not taking that well at all cause he claim that he been waiting on the chance to get to talk to me again so he could get me back but im not going back so how do i tell my husband about this situation that ive put myself in!!!!!!!!!!!.p
please help MS.TORN.

MY RESPONSE:

Before you talk to anyone, you need to talk to yourself and God because you are obviously confused about what you really want anyway. If you were satisfied with your ex, you wouldn't have left him to be with your fiance' and if you were satisfied with your fiance', you wouldn't be scouring Facebook looking for your ex. The "jokes" you are making are no jokes at all otherwise you wouldn't be "torn". I honestly believe that you want to be with your ex, but you wanted to be married so you went with whoever asked. After all, you never mentioned loving your fiance' anyway. What you honestly need to do is become satisfied with yourself before moving forward with either of these men.

Source: Strawberry Letter 23

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Professional Sales Woman

 Ladies...AND Gentlemen as well, please be as professional as possible when you are trying to sell a product. I saw this ad where this woman was trying to sell a product and she was running off at the mouth in a rude manner. Honestly, I don't care how good of a deal you're offering if your attitude is JACKED UP then you're not going to make a sale. The lady stated: I already told you how much I wanted for the car and what I knew about the car. That's all I know. So don't ask me anything else and NO NO NO NO NO you can't drive it. So stop asking. I just want it out of my yard.

LOL. Well, honey. I am glad to notify you that you have a good chance of getting it bought by a junk yard and not for the price asked. Also you are crazy to think that people aren't going to ask to DRIVE a car before they buy it. I know you walked in that house and looked around before you moved in it even though your yard is already looking ghetto so removing the car alone won't make your house look any better and property value spans pass your yard.

FYI: I know what the house looks like because she posted photos with the ad.

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Does The Recession Affect Relationships?

The following question is courtesy of Angela (Editor in Chief of Essence Magazine)

IN TIMES OF EQUALITY, WHERE MEN AND WOMEN ARE TREATED EQUALLY, WE UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS MANDATORY FOR THE GUY TO PAY FOR THE FIRST DAY, BUT SINCE WE ARE IN A RECESSION SHOULD THE WOMEN PAY FOR SOME OF THE DATES TOO OR IS CHIVALRY DEAD?

First, props to Angela for managing to get equality, recession, and chivalry into one question and confusing us all at the same time.

I don't think that the recession has anything to do with this at all, but I do feel that it would be very crazy for someone to invite you somewhere where they can't afford to take you. I couldn't imagine someone asking to take you somewhere and then when you get there they expect you to pay for both of you. Besides if you can't afford it, don't ask just stay in because if it's that big of an issue, it is going to take a toll on the relationship anyway. Ladies, don't be TOO independent to let the man be a gentlemen. If you think that there's a sexual obligation in it and you don't want that then don't try to takeover and become the man. Simply, don't attend the rendezvous or be safe and ask first because you're going to look just as crazy paying for both of you simply because you don't want to sleep with him and if he is that type if male and you don't want that then you don't need to go out with him in the first place.

But I will be honest when I tell you that not having money can ruin a relationship, but I don't fault the recession for that. I don't know many people that lost money during the recession. If they didn't have money, they didn't have it in the beginning. The recession is all about big companies in my opinion. So it may have ruined some business relationships. Maybe you are a business owner with your significant other. Is it affecting you?

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Tried to Hide It

The Letter:

Dear moring crew about 24 years ago when i was out there buck wild on a friday night drinking that crown royal and smoking on a dime bag of good weed. i went to a house party meet this lady and dance the night away bumping and grinding made plans to meet at the holiday Inn. After wards.I was to high to drive so I crashed in the car. the next day my friends dogged me hard about how ugly she was, two day later I meet her sober and oh!! fill in the blanks. she is so ugly you can use her picture to stop people from stuttering!! fast forward to now and my mom called me chewing me out like never before, yelling screaming,cussing at me. The reason was this ugly girl is now an employee for my mother and she told her about that night. Now my wife of 17 years is cracking Jokes along with the whole family. I can not believe this is happening. It was a bad night 21 years ago. I know some dirt on those who are cracking jokes but I honor the code, but this is starting to get old. please help thank you!! sincerely tried to hide it

My Response: 

Honestly, this letter isn't about anything. I think you just wanted some more people to know about it. Now we know. There is no problem here if you had to dig 24 years into your archive to find something to write about. So here's my advice: Go to bed!

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Source: Strawberry Letter 23